What's Wrong With Being Confident?
Recently, I asked on my instagram what people wanted to see on my blog. A handful of what people wanted to see had to due with confidence and staying positive. Now, I'm going to come right out and say it... I struggle with confidence, I always have. But I struggle with different aspects of confidence. The one I struggle with the most is my confidence surrounding my body type. However, that doesn't mean I'm not working on that.
But that's besides the point. What people wanted to see was a cross between maintaining confidence and tips on staying positive. Before I start my big speech on confidence, I want to remind you this: we all struggle with confidence. You are not alone.
I've realized over the years, growing up means there are a lot of changes and we are all going to go through events that can make us, break us, or even in some kind of way feel like they will define us. It's how we grow from those events that make you who you are today.
Recently, I have had the talk with a few people about how I'm not the same person I was last year, or two years ago. But i'm so proud of who I have become and I love myself. So, take a quick pause and give yourself a pat on the back. You have lived a life up to today and you will continue to grow over the next year, two years, five years, etc. You should be so proud of who you are. You are a unique individual, there is nobody like you.
There is a quote I found on pinterest that shared, "Admire someone's beauty without questioning your own." And there is so much power in this quote to me. The internet is a dangerous place. We sit there, scroll, and admire other people's beauty and then we hate ourselves because we don't have that body, we don't have that instagram feed, we don't have that smile, etc. But there is a fine line between what we allow ourselves to put online and what we keep in private. Anyone on instagram can upload photos and make their lives and themselves look amazing, but is it reality?
I go through phases where I am confident and then something brings me down and all of a sudden, I'm back to square one. Loving yourself is a hard journey, it has ups and downs. But lately, I've been trying to maintain my confidence. How do I do it? I remind myself daily that I am who I am. I have concurred some difficult battles and through it all I should love myself because I am a boss bitch.
Another way I've maintained is by reminding myself I am a boss bitch. How? I look at myself in the mirror, point at my reflection and say, "You are a boss bitch." This sounds humorous but I actually learned this from watching a TV show and a celebrity guest shared her story with doing it. I've been doing it ever since and honestly, it brings any mood up. I feel as if I can take on the world after those five simple words.
It's the small things that matter when it comes to maintaining your confidence. It's coming to terms that not everyone is going to like you, it's admitting you have flaws but hey, those flaws make you who YOU ARE. It's allowing yourself to love every inch of your body because it deserves love. People are cruel, they always will be. But that doesn't mean you have to sit there and listen to what they are saying about you. I own my past, my present, and I'm excited for my future. I own my flaws and insecurities, I accept them and I praise them.
Owning who you are is the most important part of it all. Just remember your magic because you are beautiful the way you are. Nobody can take that away.